I don’t know, man; I’ve never graduated from uni.
But I know that you don’t want to hear the ultra-wise statement “get a job”, which is conveniently the only phrase your teachers and parents are currently able to say.
Perhaps first of all, congratulate yourself on being able to stick to one thing for the past three or four years. That’s probably longer than any of your previous (or current) relationships.
One of the reasons why university drop outs are less favoured in job interviews compared to graduates is because they couldn’t stick to one thing for a few years.
In a job interview I had after I dropped out, the interviewer asked me: “Why should we hire you for a long-term position if you’re going to change your ambitions just months down the line?” That’s a valid point.
In any case, there’s a lot of anxiety, stress, nervousness, and general discomfort that surrounds the university experience. Being able to push through that for several years deserves an academic pat on the back.
So, now what?
Well, here’s one thing you can do. Or keep doing, actually.
Make sure you maintain your close friendships.
University is tough, of course, but while you’re attending, you’re also surrounded by your best friends almost every day. It’s inevitable that you’ll grow accustomed to the familiar faces and perhaps take those friendships for granted. But now that uni is over, you’ve lost a certain structure because your life was (perhaps more loosely, but generally) based around university schedules, classes, meet-ups, etc.
And now you’re armed with one degree and that’s about it. And it’s not even a useful degree. And there are hundreds of thousands of more qualified individuals doing way better than you at absolutely everything. And they’re all in shape and know how to do their taxes.
Good friends are terribly hard to find. But once found, they make for a pretty solid structure.
I think people are getting better at adopting the Instagram personality in public and reverting to the “tagged pictures” personality in private. And even more so in cities like London, I’d say, because most “affordable” shared flats here don’t even have living rooms. So we’re all just being depressed in our own rooms and then act like we’re all put together in class. So finding a real “I feel like shit” face in a crowd of “hey mate how’s it going” takes a while.
Thankfully, you’ve had a few years to find some real faces and make some pleasant acquaintances. Perhaps even some friends. Even if it’s just one.
And it probably is just one.
One time, while I was still in uni, I was invited to join the boys at the pub, but I had no money, so I said, “I have no money.” However, my uneducated friend Dustin told me, “If I have money, you have money.” And that was an incredibly powerful statement that I’ll never forget.
But he also had no money.
However, you can usually get a soda and lime for free if you ask nicely, and it’s always better to drink a damn soda and lime with a good friend than by your miserable, educated self.